by Dawn Boykin
Iyanla: Fix My Life is a reality show MUST SEE. It is a show like you’ve never experienced before. Iyanla Vanzant, accomplished author, inspirational speaker, talk show host and living testament of overcoming personal struggles and using that to become a stronger person has experienced the highs and the lows in life. Now, she’s back, helping people fix their lives, using her past to help others’ futures.
Iyanla Vanzant, gives it to you raw and uncensored and is not holding back on “the truth behind the matter”. She gets to the core of the issues that many of us face on a daily basis. Whatever is broken in your life, will come to a head in the end, if one is willing to be open and honest. Whether it’s fear, pain, resentment, loneliness, isolation, anger, depression or denial, you have to lay it all on the table to get to the root of the problem.
One of the reasons that I respect Iyanla and her work is because she is true to the situation at hand, she will not choose sides and she speaks from a place of motivation, encouragement, LOVE and support the entire way through. If you do not want to live or see the ENTIRE reality of the situation OR WANT OUT, that is completely fine with her. YOUR LOSS, not hers. What Iyanla is asking for is a commitment to the process of being honest, even if it is DENIAL that is a part of your TRUTH.
Too often we are hiding behind our truth. We would rather paint a picture of how we want others to see us, instead of who we really are. We go broke buying expensive clothes, shoes the price of our RENT (not mortgage), handbags that celebrities can AFFORD to buy, but that we can’t. We boast about living in a certain neighborhood; and in reality we are on the verge of loosing it all, including our sanity, trying to “keep up with the Kardashians”
We lie or cover up the pain of our past. Stuffing the feelings deep within, where we feel safe and protected. NOBODY MUST EVER KNOW that part of us. The part that we are ashamed of, our embarrassed self, the piece of us that we regret ever lived. Choosing to suffer, choosing to be unhappy and miserable. This is what we have learned to do in order to cope with circumstances, with life event and with who we really are. Simply because we are unhappy with who we are and where we are in our lives at the present moment.
Many of us are hiding behind a mask of deceit and deception. We wake up and put a smile on our face, but is on the brink of falling completely apart. We can not see the light at the end of the tunnel. Faith and hope is not in arms reach. But instead of being honest about reality, taking a stand and working towards getting to the root of why we are who we are. Why we choose (or not choose) to do what we do, going through life SURVIVING instead of LIVING a fulfilling life. WHY?
I challenge you to be honest. Honest about a part of your past that you wished never happened, but is still holding on to years, even decades later. IT HAPPENED! In fact LIFE HAPPENS to all of us. We can not map out exactly how our lives will be. We are not in full control, TRUE. Some of us feel as though our chances at life have been compromised. We feel as though we did not get a fair shot. Maybe there is the belief that if you had been born into a certain lifestyle or into a certain family, then MAYBE the outcome would have been different.
If the past was not what it really was, it is believed that you would not have suffered or struggled the way that have. You would not have ended up with your back against the wall, feeling trapped and alone. If only I felt loved as a child. If only my parents would have taken the time out to even pretend to care. If only someone would have protected me. If only I were not so naïve.There are unlimited WHAT IFS? WHY ME? IF ONLY? What I will tell you is to MOVE ON, LET GO, and LIVE YOUR LIFE today. I mean truly live happy and free. Exercise your greatest potential. Yesterday is GONE and TOMORROW may never come. Seek your truth, confront your troubles, accept that life happened and take charge of your destiny! You will be amazed at where your life will take you and how distant the past will be to todays truth. WHAT IF?